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LEARNING FROM THE LEGEND: “Build Trust, Be Empathetic, Be Genuine, Be Transparent. . . and Keep Evolving”

01.04.2021


At our December 17 JERSEY SERIES celebration, our 2020 Positive Impact Legend, Kathy Delaney-Smith, uplifted and inspired us. Kathy distilled 49 years of coaching into straightforward advice. “Build a trusting relationship, be empathetic, be genuine, and be transparent.”

That advice is the cornerstone of Kathy’s success. And yet the magic, the reason Kathy has coached across four decades, and the reason players from all four decades joined the celebration, is because Kathy is committed to evolving, learning, and getting better, all the time. In her very first season coaching high school basketball, Kathy went 0– 11. Eleven years later, her record was 204-31, and she began coaching at Harvard. Thirty-eight years and eleven Ivy League titles later, and still at Harvard, Kathy has evolved and continues to evolve.

Kathy’s positive impact on generations of women from ESPN’s Jackie MacMullan to Celtics VP and WNBA alum Allison Feaster and so many more, is, as Allison shared, “inarguable.” And long-lasting. Harvard Basketball alumna, Elizabeth Proudfit, Senior VP at NIC, Inc. shared that 25 years after graduating from Harvard, she still finds that every day she relies on lessons learned from Kathy in her job, and in her life.

By shining the spotlight on Kathy and the incredible sisterhood, the welcoming community she has built, PCA hopes to inspire coaches to be as authentic, engaging, caring and committed to evolving as Kathy.

Sports can be a magical place to learn, grow, compete, and find joy.

WATCH the event highlight video and learn from the Legend, Kathy Delaney-Smith.

 

 Top Ten Moments and Advice from Kathy Delaney-Smith:

  1. “I would say to everyone: Your failure is your fuel if you’re bothered by missing a step you’re never going to make it in coaching. . . .”

  1. I truly believe the best coaches evolve, and learn and get better, and steal from one another. . . . I coached those women differently from how I am coaching now, the generations are different, technology is different, I’m still evolving, Black Lives Matter, equity, everything we have to keep learning.   So I hope I do a good job with that, and it’s not without mistakes.”

 

  1. I was raised to “act as if.”  I don’t have trouble with mistakes. I struggle more with losing a basketball game than making a mistake, saying something wrong or messing up a drill.

  1. “My favorite thing about coaching are my student-athletes. . . . I love my players.  From Westwood Day 1, even the ones who are hard to coach, I have cared about everybody I coached, something in me, that must come across.”

 

  1. “I have never thought in terms of myself being a warrior, there are certain things I’m passionate about and so as soon as I have a passion, I’m going to fight the fight. . . I’m going to fight for what I believe in. So I guess in that regard, yes I am a warrior.  My passion my entire life is gender equity, I have been very vocal about that.”

 

  1. “I have always believed, that sports is the most powerful classroom in our country and in the world.  There is nothing you cannot learn about life and who you want to be where you want to go and what you want to do . . . that you can’t learn from sport.”

 

  1. “I work really hard at relationships, and relational leadership.  This particular generation takes different work than maybe 20 years ago.  It takes 1:1 stuff.  It has to be positive.  You have to create a trust environment. . . . Somehow they knew I cared about them so they let me run them to death, they let me vent, they let me lose my temper. Build a trusting relationship, be empathetic, be genuine, and be transparent – and know that coaching is a tremendous profession.”

  1. “Coaching is an incredible, complicated profession.  Anyone that’s in coaching or aspires to coach I would encourage you to do it. . . It is still the most rewarding profession, if you get it right, we’ve got to get it right because most impactful classroom we have.

 

  1. “PCA is an incredible organization, in New England and nationally, it’s why I coach, and what I believe in.  PCA teaches us, coaches, athletes, all of us.  PCA gives us the reminders that we have to be positive.  We have a huge impact on young lives, we have to be positive.  I think my favorite message is that positive does not mean you can’t be fiercely competitive, they go hand-in-hand, you can be fiercely competitive and shake each other’s hand and go have a drink, it’s what we should do and that’s how we’ll change the world . . . ”

 

  1.  My hope is that everyone gets to have in their lives, what I have had in my life, I’m very grateful, people have taken the time to let me know the impact I have on them . . . let’s use that as the takeaway – make sure you let the people, who help you, who impact you, know it